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10 Things a Diner Should Never Do (Part 2)

Back again, to finish off the 12 Things Diners Should Never Do. What? What’s that you say?! Last week it was only 10? Well, there are a couple of quickies in here that I’ve decided I simply can’t omit. Call it a bonus! (Also, these articles about service are simply that: A focus on upper level dining and the interaction between the diner and the server. Unfortunately, you don’t receive this level of service at every establishment. That is a bigger conversation, but one I’m hoping to inspire. After all, great service improves your experience no matter where you are!)

6) Don’t say you’re ready to order if you’re not. A server has a sequence of service (steps and priorities of service) long before you sit down. Timing is everything, and that frankly is why there is such great potential for things to go wrong. Your server has come to your table because he/she has found the break in the rhythm of service to proficiently and accurately take your order. If you’re not ready, or rather if you say that you are, and then keep your server waiting for several minutes while you decide, it throws off the entire system. If you have a few questions, that if of course never a problem (as referenced in ‘Don’t’ #3), and will likely help you reach your decision. However, if you simply haven’t looked yet, or need a few minutes to reach your decision, even if everyone else at the table is ready, ask your server to return in a few minutes. Any server who disagrees with this is unprofessional, and doesn’t truly care about giving you what you want.

7) Please do not attempt to summon me if I’m at another table. Waving, yelling or (god forbid) snapping at me while I’m with other guests is just rude. The other guests deserve service too, and I promise, I’ll be right over. If you truly require immediate attention, a simple hand gesture and/or nod is sufficient.

8) Do not be passive-aggressive if you are unhappy with something. If you don’t care for your drink, your dish, your wine or your server, just tell someone. Being angry about it doesn’t improve your experience. Simply asking for the kitchen to remake your dish to your liking gets you the meal you want. Sending back your dirty martini because it isn’t dirty enough is a quick fix, and one any bartender should be happy to make. Requesting a different server is tricky, and I would begin with asking your server for what you need. If he/she is being too chatty, express that you’re having a more private evening. If the server is hovering too much, mention that you’re in no rush. If he/she doesn’t take the hint, or simply is inept, go ahead and ask for a manager. Leaving a terrible tip teaches no lesson, while providing direct feedback does. Once again ask for what you want. Chances are you’ll get it! On the opposite side of the coin, tell someone if you had a great time! It is always appreciated, and may mean a little something extra the next time you’re in…

9) Don’t move things far from where your server has placed them at your table. Every night, I reset tables several times throughout the course of service. I set plates, silverware and glasses specifically on the table so as to accommodate the plates that are on the way from the kitchen. I set the fork a certain way to signal to the person delivering the dishes that the table has in fact been reset, and is ready for the next course. Inevitably, guests move the things that I have set down. That’s fine – it’s your table. However, I then ask you to be prepared to move these things out of the way when the food arrives. In fine dining, the idea is that a guest should never have to move to ‘assist’ in service. We’ve done everything we can to prevent you from having to help (complete with secret signals and all!), but if your bread plate is directly in front of you when your entrée arrives, the person with their hands full has no place to set your plate. Thank you in advance.

10) If you are splitting the bill multiple ways, don’t forget about the tax. So very often, I wait on big groups who just have cocktails, and share some appetizers. I love groups like this because they are nice, sizable tabs from frequent guests who’ve brought their friends Рawesome. However, very often when the bill comes people forget the tax, and end up shorting the server. Let’s say you and a dozen of your girlfriends go out for drinks. You each have two $12 martinis. Each lady assumes their bill is $24, and leaves $30, thereby leaving a great tip, right? Nope. Liquor tax in Hennepin County is 12.5%, so you’ve actually left a 7.5% tip. Your server ends up bewildered, concerned that the service wasn’t to your expectation, or simply pissed off that their hard work wasn’t recognized. All when you sincerely meant to tell them they did a great job! With really big parties, splitting a bill into separate checks becomes a real challenge, and it’s always important to know if this is required in advance. A lot of computer systems won’t split a bill more than eight ways. However, if you inform your server at the outset that you prefer separate tabs, that’s normally not a problem. Otherwise account for the tax, and even Uncle Sam is happy.

11) Don’t treat your server like a second-class citizen. I’m going to finish up with the golden rule. Your server is fully aware that the word ‘service’ is within their job title. It is our job to provide you with the best service, and therefore the best experience we can possibly provide. That said, your server has chosen this profession for any number of reasons, and lack of education is (most likely) not one of them. The servers I have known over my 15 years in the business are some of the most unique, expressive, creative and talented people I’ve ever met. We are students and teachers, artists and writers, yogis and foodies, and we love our jobs. That’s why we keep doing them. The schedule is flexible, allowing us to continue our educations, and travel frequently. Chances are we are dying to try that new exclusive restaurant as much as you are, and we’ve tasted that exquisite bottle of wine you’re ordering because we have a passion for wine as well. Treat your server like the intelligent, capable human being they are, and you will get the best service of your life.

12) And one last sneaky little addition (by popular demand) is this: If you are the last person in the room, please end your evening. You are keeping at least three staff members on the property: The manager, (most likely) the bartender or host and your server. Even if you’ve paid, your server is required to stay until you leave. I’ve never understood people who insist on sitting in an establishment past closing time. It’s rude, and you can’t get anything more to drink or eat anyway. Don’t you have another drink to find out there in the world, or some important romance to attend to? Don’t force us to come over and ask you to leave. It’s uncomfortable for everyone. Thank you.


10 Things Diners Should Never Do (Part 1)

In response to several of the comments I received on last week’s article, I thought a look at the perspectives of a diner vs. a server would be a worthy exercise. Last fall, Bruce Buschel wrote One Hundred Things Restaurant Statters Should Never Do, and the restaurant world was set a-buzzin’ about whether or not we agreed with all of the points made. The response was quick and furious, with a litany of snarky servers airing their grievances about the table last night who tipped them poorly. (I myself have never said a bad thing about a customer EVER!) In writing this I hope to bring exactly what I try to provide my guests with nightly – a better experience. I may not agree with every single one of the 100 things, generally, I do. It is with that in mind that I would like to present a brief…

10 Things Diners Should Never Do (Part 1)

1) Don’t be late for your reservation. Remember the last time you were frustrated that you were unable to sit down at the time of your reservation? It’s because the four parties in front of you were late for theirs. Running the door of a restaurant is a delicate art – judging the ebb and flow of diners and accommodating special requests requires patience and skill. Additionally, if you do not have a reservation, it is never beneficial to point out, “But that table’s open, and we’ll be quick!” Just because a table appears to be empty doesn’t mean it isn’t reserved, or being held to form a larger table for a group coming in. If there is a possibility of seating you at a table believe me, they will. It’s their job to get you in! If you are unavoidably running late, simply call and let them know, it will normally not be a problem to accommodate you. Knowing your arrival time is valuable, and makes getting you sat in a timely manner possible.

2) Don’t ignore your server. This may sound like a silly request, but I can’t tell you how many times I’ve said, “Do you prefer your martini up or on the rocks?” only to receive the response, “Yes.” Chances are, the reason your server is talking to you is to help guide your experience, so you’ll enjoy the restaurant to its fullest potential. It will only be a minute and we’ll get out of your way to let you enjoy each other and the food. A server’s “spiel” as we call it, will normally guide you through the menu, tell you about things that are not on the menu (specials, flights, etc.), and will provide you with a little insight as to best utilize the unique characteristics of the restaurant. And ultimately, your server is a professional who knows the menu, and can help you with your decisions. Which brings us to…

3) Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Don’t know what ramps are? Ask! No idea which Italian wine to choose because you normally drink Merlot? Ask! No matter who you are, you are not as knowledgeable about the restaurant’s food as your server is. They are not trying to be “better than you”, it is very simply their job to know these things, and to communicate them to you. And realistically, you have a far less chance of getting something you don’t want if you ask for menu clarification when ordering. No vegetarian wants to inadvertently get the pasta with pancetta and the squeamish may be unprepared to receive sweetbreads (although you really should try them). A simple question or two easily prevents sending back inappropriate dishes.

4) PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DON’T FORGET TO TELL US ABOUT YOUR ALLERGIES! I recently waited on a couple whose birthday celebration evening was ruined because they forgot to mention the husband’s severe nut allergy. It was perhaps the single scariest thing that’s ever happened to me at a table. Although the ingredient you’re allergic to may not be listed on the menu, it could be in the dish you’ve ordered. Or (worse) your dish could be prepared next to a dish that contains your allergen, and cross contamination can occur. The very last thing we EVER want is for you to have to go to the hospital because of something we served you. I’m begging you. Just tell us. (On the same note, not liking something and being allergic to something are completely different. Hating mushrooms and possibly being killed by them are not in the same hemisphere. Please, tell us your aversions so that accommodations can be made, but don’t lie about allergies – they are serious business.)

5) Don’t say you’re ready to order if you’re not. A server has a sequence of service in their head before you sit down. Timing is everything, and that frankly is why there is such great potential for things to go wrong. Your server has come to your table because they want to take your order accurately, send it to the kitchen correctly, have it delivered swiftly, thereby providing you the perfect experience. If you’re not ready, it throws off the entire system. If you have a few questions, that is of course never a problem (as referenced in ‘Don’t’ #3), and will likely help you reach your decision. However, if you simply haven’t looked yet, or need a few minutes to reach your decision, even if everyone else at the table is ready ask your server to return in a few minutes – really, we don’t mind. Any server who disagrees with this is unprofessional, and doesn’t truly care about giving you what you want.

Next Week: We’ll finish the list of 10, and highlight a few restaurants with truly exemplary service.


Mother’s Day is coming! If you love brunch like I do…please read.

I’ll start off by quickly mentioning that we in the service industry love you. Yes we do! Without the dining public, there would be no us. There would be no variety, no celebrity chefs, no James Beard awards, nothin’. We do sincerely appreciate you every time you decide to spend your hard earned dollar eating and chatting with us. I mean it – thank you.

That said, I can now acknowledge to you there are a few days all of us in ‚Äòthe industry‚Äô dread. New Year’s is crazy ‚Äî everyone is drinking too much and frankly, your server wants to be out celebrating too. Valentine’s Day is a nightmare of couples fighting, couples so involved with each other that the server is less an asset and more of an annoyance, and then there’s the fight to turn tables in time to accommodate all of the reservations. (This means if you are seated at 7 p.m. there is most likely another reservation for your table at 9 p.m. Hence, the table must turn.) These days are special occasions for every guest in the room, making it a high pressure situation for the entire restaurant staff. The evening must be perfect for every guest ‚Äî daunting for even the most experienced and polished server. And inevitably, these are the days when your average Joe who doesn‚Äôt go out very often, goes out. (We refer lovingly to these guests as ‚Äòamateurs‚Äô.) However both of these are good money shifts, so all of us put our heads down and plow through; after all, it’s just one shift out of dozens, right?

However, one shift lives in such infamy, ask anyone who’s worked for a year in the industry which shift you avoid like the plague and you’ll get a unanimous answer: Mother’s Day Brunch.
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First Ave Looks Toward the Future

It has been a while since we’ve seen any major changes to First Avenue, and with the Twins season opener just around the corner, what better time to open their new restaurant? According to Switchblade Comb, The Depot Tavern, set to open in May, will serve up your classic bar-food fare, only supposedly much better: burgers, grilled cheese sandwiches, hot dogs, french fries, cheese curds ‚Äî even ‚ÄúThe Diamond Dog‚Äù, a ¬º pound all-beef hot dog, wrapped with pepper bacon and deep-fried on a pretzel bun.

And as if that weren’t enough, they’re changing their VIP Room into the Record Room, which, frankly, makes a lot more sense considering its used mainly for spinning. Local Artist¬†Greg Gossel will help transform the space with a massive mural. And it looks like April 4th (10pm) is the unveiling day with a Passion Pit after party featuring DJ sets from Passion Pit, The Moon Goons, Famuel, Ricky Biggs and Upgrayde.


Best F**kin’ Coneys in Town

When you see a tweet like this you just have to click the link, right?

@MPLSSTPL“He didn’t marry me for my personality or because I give good blow jobs.” http://bit.ly/9FBhpv

The link takes us to Heavy Table’s review of the Gopher Bar.

“Fuck you,” says the guy behind the counter. “I’m not talking to you. Fuckin’ middle of lunch.” Behind him a grill covered wall-to-wall with charred hot dogs and buttered buns sizzles and spews a cloud of smoke so thick it’s audibly choking the overhead exhaust fan. The guy takes a swig from a bottle of Bud, sets it back down next to a pack of Marlboro Reds, and squints at us like we’re wearing panties on our heads. “Talk to my wife.”

The guy is the owner of The Gopher Bar, where — according to the sign taped to the back wall of the bar over half-empty bottles of J&B and Black Label — you’ll find “The best fuckin’ Coney Islands in town.” This is why we’re here.

The results:

It’s hard to know what makes the Coneys at The Gopher Bar so damn good. Is it the soft, lightly grilled, buttery bun? The snap of the hot dog? The spicy meat sauce? The sharp bite of the cheddar? The crunch of onions? Or is it a result of the orchestration of all these things? So many textures and flavors come together that you almost forget you’re sitting under a Confederate flag.

The Gopher Bar isn’t a bar, it’s a moral dilemma. One that goes right to the heart of the economic climate we live in. At a time when every dollar is harder to make, and even harder to make last, are you willing to support a business that has no problem asking, “How about an ice cold bottle of SHUT THE FUCK UP!?”