Secrets of the City

So…. what does this tell us?  I’m not sure what I’m supposed to get out of this first column.  Is it really shocking that women might be into the act of sex with no ties to a relationship?  If it is, then kudos – you’re shocking that demographic.  Otherwise, this seems a bit… “eh.”

Maybe she’s watched that empowering television show Sex and the City a lot. Women get to act out all the creepy qualities they saw in men.

I’m still not sure why women need to have sex like men to feel empowered, nor why they feel the need to justify it if they are.  Men don’t feel the need to justify their “dating” behavior, why should we.

Your culture needs a psychiatrist.

Maybe we just need you, Maz.

Wait, wut?  A blog that goes into the intimiate details of the interactions between the single male and the single woman that explodes old misconceptions?  Wow!  That hasn’t been done before! 

After a quick look over the blog, I’ve concluded you’re giving her way too much credit, yoshi. I don’t think it’s gonna get much higher than a slightly more adult version of Tiger Beat.

Rat was right on w/ that first comment. That post’s incredibly annoying because you usually need a worthwhile reason to be so condescending. And, a post about ladies that like the NSA sex isn’t insightful or shocking, it’s just juvenile.

I just find it really tacky.  I don’t think it is especially classy when a man or a woman just sleeps around and brags about it. But that’s my old age talking, I’m sure.

I’m tired of this whiny, snotty, he/she-should-read-my-mind shit.  Dating, sex, relationships – all hard enough already.  Do we need more people bitching about how they were on the exactly same page with someone and then he had the audacity to actually clarify that and wow that just ruined the magic?  Exhausting.  Let’s accept that these things are by nature awkward for most people and give each other a little space to let things work out, huh?

Breakthrough…really vanguard stuff there. Paging Alexis….I get it…everybody wants to pad the analytics every once in a while.   Gossip and Sex are surefire bumps, but like a good drug that high is usually short lived.

I hope she is good looking because it does matter.  If you are ugly you will get laid less.  I would argue their are a lot of men you could call, at two am and they would fuck you, so what is her point.  Anyone that puts his pecker in that hole better wear a helmet.  She has just advertised to every low life dude she is available and to every fairly nice guy that she is someone to stay away from.  How would you like to bring that home to mom.  Hey mom read this chick’s blog she likes to fuck anyone.     This generation are not the brightest bulbs, has anyone told her that she does not own the content of her twitters.  This kind of crap stays with you for life.  This chick is now the Internet slut.   Mimicking ass hole guy behavior does not make one more powerful.  Women like this are a dime a dozen.  What I find funny is that they then wonder after they are 30 something why no one wants to marry or date them.   

If a woman told a man, in the same situation, that she didn’t want to date him, he’d be elated and respond accordingly.  (Great!  Then we’re on the same page!)  The woman gets pissed and goes on to write an (somewhat) anonymous diatribe.  It’s actually very telling of the fact that she was hurt by his honesty.  Heaven forbid people be upfront and open about such things.  If she can’t handle it, perhaps she shouldn’t carry on a purely physical relationship with someone she wouldn’t ever consider dating. 

Swandog, that was pretty unnecessarily hateful. If anything, it’s obvious that she’s fussy and certainly not available anyone.

I am certainly critiquing her bitchy commentary but I’m not critiquing her desire to have some casual sex.   I don’t buy into swandog’s purity bullshit.

Anonymous? Good luck with that.

How come I never meet women like this?

I have to agree with maryanne and jeffk on this. The only thing that post did was show how manipulative, passive aggressive and coy chicks like this want to be. The guy said EXACTLY what he wanted. She was the one who was trying to play mind games.

… and yet this appears to be the only post people are commenting on today. Ho-hum.

@Cristina: Oh, you’re missing out on all the fun happening in the GAMC thread!

Jeff – the truth hurts sometimes. 

Gotcha, noods. Had offline things to do this morn.

And… phew!

Tweet re. next blog post from @singletwincity: Ran into my ex with
whom I had a painful split- worst of my life. Blog post to follow about
painful phenomenon that is the Nuclear Break-Up. 

“… and yet this appears to be the only post people are commenting on today. Ho-hum.”

I mean, if we’re judging content merely by hits/attention than maybe that blog should be Megan Fox pics or a Justin Bieber fan page or something? Criticism isn’t made invalid just cause something’s sensational (despite it actually being really, really banal)

Uh… no, Chris, but MNSpeak thrives on the concept of opinion and dialog.

It’s interesting that swandog assumed that the author likes to have sex with lots of random people, even though I assumed from the post that she only has one regular hookup.  Casual sex does not equal the town bicycle.

If a guy had posted this (see my translation below), it would come across as chauvinistic a hell of a lot more than it would as “interesting.” I don’t think this kind of attitude is something to champion in regards to either gender. I don’t have a problem with casual sex, I just don’t think people need to be such jerks about it. Here’s the thing and I don’t mean to be harsh but this chick wasn’t even a contender to date me.  It was casual and fun, no strings attached hook-ups. There were no dates, no Happy Hours, no dinners, no movies, nothing but 2am calls to meet up. So what’s the dramatic, “I’m interested but I’m not interested in it going beyond sex” line? Honey, you’re not a Juliet and I’m not a Casanova who sits at home hoping and praying we’re going to go out on dates.  I’ve already called a Spade a Spade, haven’t you?And I think singer Ke$ha sums it nicely by saying, “Quit being a bitch with your chit-chat. Just show me where your pussy’s at…”And seriously…Bitch. I don’t want to date you.

Huh. Lost the formatting in that post somehow.

Let’s see, as a guy, if I express my thoughts clearly about my ideas of how casual a “relationship” is, I’m an egotistical fool.  If I don’t express my thoughts about how casual I might feel a relationship is, well, I don’t think anyone’s lived to tell that tale. Let’s all stop pretending we’re so damn superior in our ability to guess what the other sex wants.  If we could step off all the soapbox moralizing that would be cool too.  People like to get it on, why is that a bad thing to anyone (all things being equal, consenting adults etc.)